I upvoted you for giving the examples. Though, given that I mostly share Michelle’s… let’s say difficulty with the concepts, I can’t quite tell if they’re correct examples :-)
Hmm, I kind of agree with Larks, I think I tend to prefer “colder” discussions (in general, not just your examples). I like jokes, and the occasional affectation (like the “’twas” you used there), and I love people mixing seriousness and funny stuff as long as the serious part remains mostly correct (like that formal ecological analysis of the prey-predator dynamics in Buffy that circulated at one point on the net), but few people can keep that up all the time, and I get really off-put when things become wordy just to avoid “touchy-feely”(x) people getting offended.
(x: I don’t mean that deprecatingly, that’s just the label my brain attaches to some things. It’s weird, I sort of theoretically agree with what (seems to me) is the general-population idea that coldness is bad and warmth is nice, it’s just that in practice it often annoys me. Though I’m also annoyed by intentional cold comments (acid sarcasm and the like), which get the “bad touchy-feely” label.)
I can’t tell what practical lessons to draw from this. Personally, other than adding a smiley or an exclamation mark now and then I don’t really know how to make myself not sound cold.
I thought this a warm response, probably due to the use of words that convey emotion: “I … share” ; “I think” ; “I like” ; “I love”. Also, I find intentional colloquialism and qualifiers warm as well (excluding slang, though I think that a personal quirk): ”… stuff” ; “that’s just … some things” ; “It’s weird” ; “sort of” ; “it’s just” ; “Hmm” ; “kind of”.
I upvoted you for giving the examples. Though, given that I mostly share Michelle’s… let’s say difficulty with the concepts, I can’t quite tell if they’re correct examples :-)
Hmm, I kind of agree with Larks, I think I tend to prefer “colder” discussions (in general, not just your examples). I like jokes, and the occasional affectation (like the “’twas” you used there), and I love people mixing seriousness and funny stuff as long as the serious part remains mostly correct (like that formal ecological analysis of the prey-predator dynamics in Buffy that circulated at one point on the net), but few people can keep that up all the time, and I get really off-put when things become wordy just to avoid “touchy-feely”(x) people getting offended.
(x: I don’t mean that deprecatingly, that’s just the label my brain attaches to some things. It’s weird, I sort of theoretically agree with what (seems to me) is the general-population idea that coldness is bad and warmth is nice, it’s just that in practice it often annoys me. Though I’m also annoyed by intentional cold comments (acid sarcasm and the like), which get the “bad touchy-feely” label.)
I can’t tell what practical lessons to draw from this. Personally, other than adding a smiley or an exclamation mark now and then I don’t really know how to make myself not sound cold.
I thought this a warm response, probably due to the use of words that convey emotion: “I … share” ; “I think” ; “I like” ; “I love”. Also, I find intentional colloquialism and qualifiers warm as well (excluding slang, though I think that a personal quirk): ”… stuff” ; “that’s just … some things” ; “It’s weird” ; “sort of” ; “it’s just” ; “Hmm” ; “kind of”.
Caveat: Overuse of qualifiers can become grating.