Sexual Weirdtopia: What goes on consensually behind closed doors doesn’t (usually) affect the general welfare negatively, so it’s not a matter of social concern. However, that particular bundle of biases known as “romantic love” has led to so much chaos in the past that it’s become heavily regulated.
People start out life with the love-module suppressed; but many erstwhile romantics feel that in the right circumstances, this particular self-deception can actually better their lives. If a relationship is going well, the couple (or group, perhaps) can propose to fall in love, and ask the higher authorities for a particular love-mod for their minds.
Every so often, each loving relationship must undergo an “audit” in which they have the love-mods removed and decide whether to put them back in. No unrequited love is allowed; if one party ends it, the other must as well...
You might be interested to know that SSRIs appear to kill romantic love, in addition to their other effects. Thus half of the engineering problem has been solved, modulo the difficulty in obtaining these drugs.
Pity that this suggestion is a few years late for your own (unstated) predicament, of course. But don’t worry, you’ll get through it the old-fashioned way in time.
My personal case study ahem, went down immediately then went up after a month; and I’ve known lots of people who only dated after they got on SSRIs. So the answer is, IT DEPENDS.
Also, the paper seemed not to differentiate enough between libido and “love” drive.
Sexual Weirdtopia: What goes on consensually behind closed doors doesn’t (usually) affect the general welfare negatively, so it’s not a matter of social concern. However, that particular bundle of biases known as “romantic love” has led to so much chaos in the past that it’s become heavily regulated.
People start out life with the love-module suppressed; but many erstwhile romantics feel that in the right circumstances, this particular self-deception can actually better their lives. If a relationship is going well, the couple (or group, perhaps) can propose to fall in love, and ask the higher authorities for a particular love-mod for their minds.
Every so often, each loving relationship must undergo an “audit” in which they have the love-mods removed and decide whether to put them back in. No unrequited love is allowed; if one party ends it, the other must as well...
You might be interested to know that SSRIs appear to kill romantic love, in addition to their other effects. Thus half of the engineering problem has been solved, modulo the difficulty in obtaining these drugs.
Pity that this suggestion is a few years late for your own (unstated) predicament, of course. But don’t worry, you’ll get through it the old-fashioned way in time.
Hm. I looked up the source and it looks like most of the “proof” is due to a few case studies. Not that anyone’s still reading this but just in case.
Thanks! (Ugh, papers that talk about fMRI results.)
But for what it’s worth, my own case study confirmed the claim as well.
My personal case study ahem, went down immediately then went up after a month; and I’ve known lots of people who only dated after they got on SSRIs. So the answer is, IT DEPENDS.
Also, the paper seemed not to differentiate enough between libido and “love” drive.