Caveat: I don’t know what is this manual distribution method you’re talking about, so I’ll address the essence regardless of what technology is used to implement it. That is, I’m interpreting “long profile” as “lots of text in your profile or linked from it”.
Most people write barely anything in their profile and (I guess??) care more about the photos more than the text in other profiles. However, I don’t want to date most people. The mindset of choosing people to date primarily based on the photo seems to me, frankly, almost alien. They do them, but I’m not gonna do them. If I see a profile without substantial information about interests, worldview or personality, which is not completely shallow and generic, there’s no chance I would be interested.
In practice, I met my spouse on OK Cupid. We both wrote a lot in our profiles, and answered a tonne of questions (99% compatibility). This is not a coincidence! So, my advice is: imagine the kind of person you want to date. Is this person going to be mostly interested in your looks? Or, they will care deeply about you-the-person and what makes you different from any other random person out there? If it’s the former, don’t write a long profile. If it’s the latter, then obviously you do want a long profile.
Thanks for this! Just to clarify what I meant by “manual distribution”, if you’ve written a dating profile outside of a dating app, you’ve basically got to share a link if you want anyone to read it (see e.g. this post).
Caveat: I don’t know what is this manual distribution method you’re talking about, so I’ll address the essence regardless of what technology is used to implement it. That is, I’m interpreting “long profile” as “lots of text in your profile or linked from it”.
Most people write barely anything in their profile and (I guess??) care more about the photos more than the text in other profiles. However, I don’t want to date most people. The mindset of choosing people to date primarily based on the photo seems to me, frankly, almost alien. They do them, but I’m not gonna do them. If I see a profile without substantial information about interests, worldview or personality, which is not completely shallow and generic, there’s no chance I would be interested.
In practice, I met my spouse on OK Cupid. We both wrote a lot in our profiles, and answered a tonne of questions (99% compatibility). This is not a coincidence! So, my advice is: imagine the kind of person you want to date. Is this person going to be mostly interested in your looks? Or, they will care deeply about you-the-person and what makes you different from any other random person out there? If it’s the former, don’t write a long profile. If it’s the latter, then obviously you do want a long profile.
Thanks for this! Just to clarify what I meant by “manual distribution”, if you’ve written a dating profile outside of a dating app, you’ve basically got to share a link if you want anyone to read it (see e.g. this post).