I had a super-long Okcupid profile up for about seven years minus the <1y period where I was in a relationship with someone I met irl via EA/work. I also had tinder for a period of time, where I circumvented the word limit by linking to text from my Okcupid profile. I always thought the long profile was the right approach for me because I knew that people who are soulmate-compatible with me would appreciate both the length and the honesty.
I was primarily looking for a life-long relationship, but there were times where I noted that I’d be interested in trying out more casual relationships while the search was continuing. (This was certainly a tradeoff: the long-profile approach is probably suboptimal for impressing women who are looking for a more casual relationship.)
After seven years of very little success, someone replied to me with “I’ve just read your profile and I have rarely come across someone so like-minded, ever. It’s a little bit uncanny.” It turned out that this impression of uncanny compatibility was mutual! We’ve been together for nearly 1.5 years now and things couldn’t be better<3
So, it was definitely worth it for me, even though it seemed like the profile wasn’t doing much for me for the vast majority of the time that I had it. (For instance, even on the rare occasions where I got replies to first messages, it would almost never lead to a conversation where the women would eventually comment on the parts of my profile that I was particularly fond of.)
I had a super-long Okcupid profile up for about seven years minus the <1y period where I was in a relationship with someone I met irl via EA/work. I also had tinder for a period of time, where I circumvented the word limit by linking to text from my Okcupid profile. I always thought the long profile was the right approach for me because I knew that people who are soulmate-compatible with me would appreciate both the length and the honesty.
I was primarily looking for a life-long relationship, but there were times where I noted that I’d be interested in trying out more casual relationships while the search was continuing. (This was certainly a tradeoff: the long-profile approach is probably suboptimal for impressing women who are looking for a more casual relationship.)
After seven years of very little success, someone replied to me with “I’ve just read your profile and I have rarely come across someone so like-minded, ever. It’s a little bit uncanny.” It turned out that this impression of uncanny compatibility was mutual! We’ve been together for nearly 1.5 years now and things couldn’t be better<3
So, it was definitely worth it for me, even though it seemed like the profile wasn’t doing much for me for the vast majority of the time that I had it. (For instance, even on the rare occasions where I got replies to first messages, it would almost never lead to a conversation where the women would eventually comment on the parts of my profile that I was particularly fond of.)