Normally I like seeing individual stories and anecdotes and having information broken down into small pieces. Insofar as I might be interested in self-modifying toward polyamory in the future I think that this post would be helpful.
On the other hand, I was skeeved just like many other commenters. Major parts of that may have been from:
I think I would have had a different initial reaction to Alice; more like an appreciation of her commitment than a sense of suboptimality.
You say that you “scored [your] first one-night stand” then immediately go on to say how you do not enjoy casual flings. One part of my brain that I am not sure whether I endorse tells me that this means you are manipulating women, and another part tells me that you aren’t even enjoying it, which turns into strengthening that negative response even though I am not sure if I want it. An extra sentence after the first one night stand before the statement about not enjoying them would help.
Abrupt changes of subject make me feel weird and displaced, and you grouped it with other topics (like not talking about mathematics while flirting) that I am only just starting to come around to.
Normally I like seeing individual stories and anecdotes and having information broken down into small pieces. Insofar as I might be interested in self-modifying toward polyamory in the future I think that this post would be helpful.
On the other hand, I was skeeved just like many other commenters. Major parts of that may have been from:
I think I would have had a different initial reaction to Alice; more like an appreciation of her commitment than a sense of suboptimality.
You say that you “scored [your] first one-night stand” then immediately go on to say how you do not enjoy casual flings. One part of my brain that I am not sure whether I endorse tells me that this means you are manipulating women, and another part tells me that you aren’t even enjoying it, which turns into strengthening that negative response even though I am not sure if I want it. An extra sentence after the first one night stand before the statement about not enjoying them would help.
Abrupt changes of subject make me feel weird and displaced, and you grouped it with other topics (like not talking about mathematics while flirting) that I am only just starting to come around to.