It’s not okay to ostracize people for behavior which actually-innocently violates weak social heuristics (“red flags”), and it’s not okay to knowingly share information which makes people vulnerable to unjust ostracization. This post strongly violates my better-than-average heuristics for actually-abusive (not social-reality-abusive) behavior. The world is not a fair place; your post offers nothing in the way of tolerance for the actually-innocent.
In what way does this post do those bad things you mentioned? There is no mention of breaking innocent secrets, or secrets that would cause unjust ostracization, only patterns of actually harmful behavior.
If this post was made in confidence to you, would you tell others of it anyway?
It’s not okay to ostracize people for behavior which actually-innocently violates weak social heuristics (“red flags”), and it’s not okay to knowingly share information which makes people vulnerable to unjust ostracization. This post strongly violates my better-than-average heuristics for actually-abusive (not social-reality-abusive) behavior. The world is not a fair place; your post offers nothing in the way of tolerance for the actually-innocent.
In what way does this post do those bad things you mentioned? There is no mention of breaking innocent secrets, or secrets that would cause unjust ostracization, only patterns of actually harmful behavior.
If this post was made in confidence to you, would you tell others of it anyway?
Ummm… what?