I have to say for myself mostly two, with criticism of the underlying assumption of one that tends to negate three as well. So, uh, all of them. Still mostly two though:
All people are so similar to each other it should be trivial to understand them with any real effort. The differences between men and women on average are tiny compared to differences between individuals, which are themselves tiny compared to the massive similarities between all human beings.
(A lot of people seem to take for granted that their mind works mostly the same as the mind of the person they are talking to; all I have to say to that is that the very ability to have a conversation that makes any sense at all is a function of the two of you having a very similar mental structure. You would not have a good time talking to someone who did not have the concept “you”, for example.
Given that you can have a conversation with someone, the two of you are sufficiently similar to understand each other with fairly little effort.)
“Understanding the opposite sex is hard”
Understanding any other person is hard. Biological sex is really quite irrelevant.
Which of these is in your opinion not true?
The more similar people are to you, the easier they tend to be to understand.
People of the same sex are on average significantly more similar to each other than people of different sex.
There is no magical force compensating for differences caused or implied by sex involved in understanding each other.
I have to say for myself mostly two, with criticism of the underlying assumption of one that tends to negate three as well. So, uh, all of them. Still mostly two though:
All people are so similar to each other it should be trivial to understand them with any real effort. The differences between men and women on average are tiny compared to differences between individuals, which are themselves tiny compared to the massive similarities between all human beings.
(A lot of people seem to take for granted that their mind works mostly the same as the mind of the person they are talking to; all I have to say to that is that the very ability to have a conversation that makes any sense at all is a function of the two of you having a very similar mental structure. You would not have a good time talking to someone who did not have the concept “you”, for example.
Given that you can have a conversation with someone, the two of you are sufficiently similar to understand each other with fairly little effort.)