But solving for the higher numbers may also be harder. In the personal domain, many people find it easier to go on dates and find a partner they click with than to shift their attachment patterns or to achieve perfect enlightenment and become liberated from all suffering. A person’s external circumstances may also actively prevent them from making any internal progress, such as if their obligations keep them stressed all the time, or if they are in an abusive environment that actively punishes them for getting better.
Indeed, many people are unable to make progress on acceptance until they’ve dealt with enough of their immediate problems to have the space to start accepting. Acceptance is unthinkable because they feel so not-okay with anything.
I know that for myself I had to spend a lot of years “eating my shadow” before I had the capacity for anything more.
Indeed, many people are unable to make progress on acceptance until they’ve dealt with enough of their immediate problems to have the space to start accepting. Acceptance is unthinkable because they feel so not-okay with anything.
I know that for myself I had to spend a lot of years “eating my shadow” before I had the capacity for anything more.