I will also never withhold information that [pronoun] would in hindsight prefer to know
This phrasing seems a little strange. Both because the only thing you can actually commit to is never withholding information which you believe that [pronoun] will end up wishing they’d known; but also because the optimal communication policy has some non-zero rate of false negatives.
A more precise formulation would be: “when choosing what information to pass on, optimize solely for your best estimate of the spouse’s utility function”.
This phrasing seems a little strange. Both because the only thing you can actually commit to is never withholding information which you believe that [pronoun] will end up wishing they’d known; but also because the optimal communication policy has some non-zero rate of false negatives.
A more precise formulation would be: “when choosing what information to pass on, optimize solely for your best estimate of the spouse’s utility function”.