Ah, gotcha. I guess I’d give the same advice hypothetically… establish a general framework in which asking for things you (both) want is a good thing. This is just a special case of that.
As for how to do that, well, it depends a lot on the people involved. Mostly, my advice is to ask for things you want, and encourage her to do the same, and see where that goes.
In general, do you have ways in your relationship of asking for things you want and having that be OK?
If so, how do you do it? I would think the same techniques would apply. (In my own relationship, I emphasize symmetry.)
If not, it might be better to start there, and worry about gifts and love-languages later.
I’m currently single so the question is hypothetical.
Ah, gotcha. I guess I’d give the same advice hypothetically… establish a general framework in which asking for things you (both) want is a good thing. This is just a special case of that.
As for how to do that, well, it depends a lot on the people involved. Mostly, my advice is to ask for things you want, and encourage her to do the same, and see where that goes.