It seems that Vaniver and pnrjulius have assumed that you’re having trouble picking good dates. If, instead, you are worried about getting picked (or accepted) for dates, then maybe you’re on to something. I’d be interested in knowing whether the majority of people accept dates based on a positive or a negative selection process. It may need to be broken down by gender.
(I have a hypothesis that I won’t share yet, in case it influences results)
It seems that Vaniver and pnrjulius have assumed that you’re having trouble picking good dates.
Viliam_Bur describes my thought process correctly.
I’m faltering on the first step, finding a woman whom I would be interested in dating. I think part of this is due to what I now recognize to be too many criteria ruling out people who might otherwise be appealing. (I’ve certainly had people tell me I’m too picky before, but it took a comparison to undergraduate admissions for the underlying nature of the problem to become apparent.)
Worrying about getting picked or accepted is a different step entirely.
It seems that Vaniver and pnrjulius have assumed that you’re having trouble picking good dates. If, instead, you are worried about getting picked (or accepted) for dates, then maybe you’re on to something. I’d be interested in knowing whether the majority of people accept dates based on a positive or a negative selection process. It may need to be broken down by gender.
(I have a hypothesis that I won’t share yet, in case it influences results)
Viliam_Bur describes my thought process correctly.
I’m faltering on the first step, finding a woman whom I would be interested in dating. I think part of this is due to what I now recognize to be too many criteria ruling out people who might otherwise be appealing. (I’ve certainly had people tell me I’m too picky before, but it took a comparison to undergraduate admissions for the underlying nature of the problem to become apparent.)
Worrying about getting picked or accepted is a different step entirely.
That definitely makes it clear what your intention is.
I’m male and (I think) I tend to apply negative selection when deciding.