All that means is that you have a different definition of value for your friendships. It’s important to focus on what exactly you want from your friends, but I see no reason that definition of value would be incompatible with trying to consciously cultivate stronger and better relationships.
So let’s run with that. What can one do to intentionally try and grow those sorts of strong bonds with people? I’m reminded of a quote from HPMoR:
“One of my tutors once said that people form close friendships by knowing private things about each other, and the reason most people don’t make close friends is because they’re too embarrassed to share anything really important about themselves.”
All that means is that you have a different definition of value for your friendships. It’s important to focus on what exactly you want from your friends, but I see no reason that definition of value would be incompatible with trying to consciously cultivate stronger and better relationships.
So let’s run with that. What can one do to intentionally try and grow those sorts of strong bonds with people? I’m reminded of a quote from HPMoR:
Or he has different preferences than you do, but is using the word “value” in roughly the same way that you are.
You guys postulated differing values too easily.