Pressing Build does NOT obligate our game partner to Build back. Instead, think of pressing Build as a gift to your game partner. You are gifting them the option of a Build-Build spiral (or rather a higher probability than baseline of a b-b spiral), and that gift is received no matter what button they push in response.
What you get out of the exchange is information. You have learned what your game partner will do given the option to Build. WHATEVER they push back at you is a gift of knowledge.
I think this was the bit that was the most concrete new insight for me. (I sort of knew it, but having it crystalized I think will make it easier to have future conversations with people I’m trying to navigate these sorts of relationships with, or who I observe trying to do it for themselves).
I think this was the bit that was the most concrete new insight for me. (I sort of knew it, but having it crystalized I think will make it easier to have future conversations with people I’m trying to navigate these sorts of relationships with, or who I observe trying to do it for themselves).