This post was very well written, though it seems to me to be dominated by views that are perfectly aligned to a certain political opinion, which actually kind of disencourage me from commenting.
For instance, your first point about unwanted sex seems rather strawmanish to me; obviously “antifeminists” do not use the word rape in the literal sense of “unwanted sex”. No one wants something that is unwanted, rather it is generally intended as something like “Women enjoy sex in ways they are unwilling to admit publicly, and to a lesser extent also privately”.
There is another point that stuck to me:
“How could I have wronged her? She had five boyfriends before me who did the same thing I did!”
Well, no. You’re implicitly working on revealed preference theory here, when it isn’t warranted. “She must have wanted it, because it happened to her repeatedly” is just untrue. It could be bad luck, with no agency on her part at all.
Indeed, it could be bad luck, but if it is, based on my personal experience, women must have an unusual, almost magical amount of bad luck. Growing up, I witness the virtual totality of my female friends ending up in relationships with men that scored among the top of the distribution in traits like extrovertedness and aggressiveness, they were also considerably older and a lot more experienced, which easily put them in a position of relative advantage with respect of their partner.
This post was very well written, though it seems to me to be dominated by views that are perfectly aligned to a certain political opinion, which actually kind of disencourage me from commenting.
For instance, your first point about unwanted sex seems rather strawmanish to me; obviously “antifeminists” do not use the word rape in the literal sense of “unwanted sex”. No one wants something that is unwanted, rather it is generally intended as something like “Women enjoy sex in ways they are unwilling to admit publicly, and to a lesser extent also privately”.
There is another point that stuck to me:
“How could I have wronged her? She had five boyfriends before me who did the same thing I did!”
Well, no. You’re implicitly working on revealed preference theory here, when it isn’t warranted. “She must have wanted it, because it happened to her repeatedly” is just untrue. It could be bad luck, with no agency on her part at all.
Indeed, it could be bad luck, but if it is, based on my personal experience, women must have an unusual, almost magical amount of bad luck. Growing up, I witness the virtual totality of my female friends ending up in relationships with men that scored among the top of the distribution in traits like extrovertedness and aggressiveness, they were also considerably older and a lot more experienced, which easily put them in a position of relative advantage with respect of their partner.
Did you observe a similar pattern growing up?