tl;dr: Great reminder, agree with all of it substantially & exactly (except for the nitpicking below).
Nitpicking on wording: Strictly speaking, he did not fail to say how much he wants to go at all; and it’s not that he did not strictly “say” how much he wants to go. He actually did indeed want to go (!), but because he wrongly thought the others wanted to go, so his other-pleasing motive meant, net, he had a pref for going. It’s just his presumption was wrong, and has led him to want to go while with full information he wouldn’t have wanted to. So, in a very strict sense, your point is even a bit more different from the Albino situation than your ‘slight-of-hand’ admission meant.
Or, actually, your point—if Abilene is common—should be nudged/extended to: Also make sure there’s no Abilene-type misunderstanding as to the reason why you might have the particular preference you state.
Doesn’t reduce the fact that your post is a great reminder and encouragement for doing more of what I sometimes try to do even if one does something a bit uncommon when indicating preference strenghts the way you rightly suggest. 🙏
tl;dr: Great reminder, agree with all of it substantially & exactly (except for the nitpicking below).
Nitpicking on wording: Strictly speaking, he did not fail to say how much he wants to go at all; and it’s not that he did not strictly “say” how much he wants to go. He actually did indeed want to go (!), but because he wrongly thought the others wanted to go, so his other-pleasing motive meant, net, he had a pref for going. It’s just his presumption was wrong, and has led him to want to go while with full information he wouldn’t have wanted to. So, in a very strict sense, your point is even a bit more different from the Albino situation than your ‘slight-of-hand’ admission meant.
Or, actually, your point—if Abilene is common—should be nudged/extended to: Also make sure there’s no Abilene-type misunderstanding as to the reason why you might have the particular preference you state.
Doesn’t reduce the fact that your post is a great reminder and encouragement for doing more of what I sometimes try to do even if one does something a bit uncommon when indicating preference strenghts the way you rightly suggest. 🙏