Yeah, the big thing with specific solutions is that while they may be helpful, they don’t teach you a new way to think. (Also, what might be fun for one person could be boring or unpleasant for someone else. I don’t know whether you enjoy debating, or sports, or watching plays, etc. But I’m assuming you know what would be fun for you.)
In terms of why no one is getting at the root of the problem… for me at least, I’ve never thought about it consciously. School happened to me, work happened to me, and the few times I decided to spontaneously start a new activity (i.e. taekwondo) I just googled “taekwondo in Ottawa”, found a location, and showed up. If anything, my problem has always been noticing too many opportunities to do fun things and been upset that I couldn’t do all of them. So there may well be something that you do differently than I do, but since ‘noticing’ fun things to do happens below the level of my conscious awareness, trying to figure out the cognitive strategies involved takes a lot of work.
Yeah, the big thing with specific solutions is that while they may be helpful, they don’t teach you a new way to think. (Also, what might be fun for one person could be boring or unpleasant for someone else. I don’t know whether you enjoy debating, or sports, or watching plays, etc. But I’m assuming you know what would be fun for you.)
In terms of why no one is getting at the root of the problem… for me at least, I’ve never thought about it consciously. School happened to me, work happened to me, and the few times I decided to spontaneously start a new activity (i.e. taekwondo) I just googled “taekwondo in Ottawa”, found a location, and showed up. If anything, my problem has always been noticing too many opportunities to do fun things and been upset that I couldn’t do all of them. So there may well be something that you do differently than I do, but since ‘noticing’ fun things to do happens below the level of my conscious awareness, trying to figure out the cognitive strategies involved takes a lot of work.