For a data point, after having read the first paragraph I looked for examples and counterexamples. I found 1 example where a person strongly worries they are X while actually they’re anti-X (just like orthonormal describes), 2 examples where a person strongly worries they’re X and they’re indeed X, and 3 examples where they worry they’re X but actually they’re normal, i.e. between X and anti-X.
I do want to make it clear that people who are X often acknowledge that they are X, but don’t intensely worry about it. E.g. a friend who knows he’s abrasive, knows his life would be better if he were less abrasive on the margin, but doesn’t have the emotional reaction “oh god, am I being abrasive?” in the middle of social interactions.
For a data point, after having read the first paragraph I looked for examples and counterexamples. I found 1 example where a person strongly worries they are X while actually they’re anti-X (just like orthonormal describes), 2 examples where a person strongly worries they’re X and they’re indeed X, and 3 examples where they worry they’re X but actually they’re normal, i.e. between X and anti-X.
Interesting! Different experiences.
I do want to make it clear that people who are X often acknowledge that they are X, but don’t intensely worry about it. E.g. a friend who knows he’s abrasive, knows his life would be better if he were less abrasive on the margin, but doesn’t have the emotional reaction “oh god, am I being abrasive?” in the middle of social interactions.