For additional data point: I am a man and generally care a lot about in-person social disapproval; it’s probably my main motivation when there’s another person in the room. I care much less about active adulation, and basically never even think about my own physical safety. I notice I am confused about whether this would count as “respect” or “safety.”
If we decompose these into (social/physical) and (upside-focused/downside-focused), I note that in your (Gordon’s) gendered examples above both stereotypically masculine and feminine behaviors have instances in the (downside-focused/social) quadrant, with very little in the (upside-focused/physical) quadrant (which makes sense, since there’s closer to a hard ceiling there.) So maybe the original claim is best expressed that men are disproportionately attuned to (upside and downside) social outcomes and women are disproportionately attuned to (social and physical) downside outcomes.
For additional data point: I am a man and generally care a lot about in-person social disapproval; it’s probably my main motivation when there’s another person in the room. I care much less about active adulation, and basically never even think about my own physical safety. I notice I am confused about whether this would count as “respect” or “safety.”
I’d say this is respect. If one is disapproved of, one is not respected.
For additional data point: I am a man and generally care a lot about in-person social disapproval; it’s probably my main motivation when there’s another person in the room. I care much less about active adulation, and basically never even think about my own physical safety. I notice I am confused about whether this would count as “respect” or “safety.”
If we decompose these into (social/physical) and (upside-focused/downside-focused), I note that in your (Gordon’s) gendered examples above both stereotypically masculine and feminine behaviors have instances in the (downside-focused/social) quadrant, with very little in the (upside-focused/physical) quadrant (which makes sense, since there’s closer to a hard ceiling there.) So maybe the original claim is best expressed that men are disproportionately attuned to (upside and downside) social outcomes and women are disproportionately attuned to (social and physical) downside outcomes.
I’d say this is respect. If one is disapproved of, one is not respected.