I’m not advocating lying here, I’m advocating learning the communication skills necessary to a) actually get people to understand your point (which they’ll have a harder time with if they’re defensive), and b) not wasting dozens of hours unnecessarily (which could be better spent on figuring other things out).
[and to be clear, I also advocate gaining the courage to speak the truth even if your voice trembles, and be willing to fight for it when it’s important. Just, those aren’t the only skills a rationalist or a rationalist space needs. Listening, communicating clearly, avoiding triggering people’s “use language as politics mode”, and modeling minds and frames different from your own are key skills too]
I’m not advocating lying here, I’m advocating learning the communication skills necessary to a) actually get people to understand your point (which they’ll have a harder time with if they’re defensive), and b) not wasting dozens of hours unnecessarily (which could be better spent on figuring other things out).
[and to be clear, I also advocate gaining the courage to speak the truth even if your voice trembles, and be willing to fight for it when it’s important. Just, those aren’t the only skills a rationalist or a rationalist space needs. Listening, communicating clearly, avoiding triggering people’s “use language as politics mode”, and modeling minds and frames different from your own are key skills too]