Unlike the thing the litany of gendlin addresses, anger is sometimes warranted. I think this calls for a different approach.
Anger is for punishing violations of moral codes. Did the subject of my anger really know my code?
We live in a big world. There are many different moral codes trying to coexist. I don’t know every code. Some of them don’t have names or signifiers. Was the subject of my anger following their own code?
If different codes conflict, that calls for a very sophisticated response.