Not really. There is a qualitative difference between being harmed and being offended. And as usual the word “offended” can range in meaning from a perceptual experience of distaste or dissatisfaction to a surrender to anger and outrage. It’s clear to me at least which end of that scale katydee is advising us to avoid.
Of course it wouldn’t make sense to advise people to avoid disliking things that are contrary to their values. But it makes perfect sense to advise mindfulness in the face of strong emotional responses. “Keep a cool head under fire” is uncontroversially good advice, and not equivalent to blaming people for being shot at.
Also, katydee’s advice works when applied to itself, because clearly too there would be nothing useful about being emotionally outraged at the idea of advice-as-victim-blaming, and none of the reasonable critical comments here seem to be couched in the form of incoherently angry rants.
Not really. There is a qualitative difference between being harmed and being offended. And as usual the word “offended” can range in meaning from a perceptual experience of distaste or dissatisfaction to a surrender to anger and outrage. It’s clear to me at least which end of that scale katydee is advising us to avoid.
Of course it wouldn’t make sense to advise people to avoid disliking things that are contrary to their values. But it makes perfect sense to advise mindfulness in the face of strong emotional responses. “Keep a cool head under fire” is uncontroversially good advice, and not equivalent to blaming people for being shot at.
Also, katydee’s advice works when applied to itself, because clearly too there would be nothing useful about being emotionally outraged at the idea of advice-as-victim-blaming, and none of the reasonable critical comments here seem to be couched in the form of incoherently angry rants.